ギャランス・ドレのインスタグラム(garancedore) - 7月31日 00時25分
Do you find yourself sexy?
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One of the things that never-had-been-single-in-my-life-before had robbed me from is my relationship with myself. I simply didn’t know. There were basically always two gazes on me.
The one from society and the one from a partner.
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If those were fine, I was fine.
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As a girl I had learned to be judged on my body SO early. All women know how it feels. “Oh look at you, you have boobs now!” (I did, but I literally hadn’t seen them) “You’re so athletic!” (wtf does that mean to a kid) “You should be a model” (didn’t even know what a model was) and, when I was swimming in a team “be careful you’re getting too strong!” (had never looked at my body like that, but stopped swimming.)
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It felt very weird, but I integrated it as something normal. My body is open for comments.
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Being single for the first time, I realize I had never taken the time to understand that sexy, sensual, embodied isn’t something that always need to be directed at someone. .
Sensuality is a state of living.
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It’s what, as women, we are rarely taught - we’re taught it is shameful, that feeling of being hot for oneself. .
And now that I think of it, I have seen it.
The most sensual, beautiful and desirable women I know don’t live in that desperate need to be seen and validated by others. .
They know. They “feel themselves”. They’re sexy for themselves. They’re intimate with themselves first. It is so soft and powerful. And nobody can take it away from them, tell them they’re too much of this or not enough of that. .
Summer is a wonderful time for sensuality. Develop that relationship with yourself. It takes some time, so start now!!!
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