ジェームズ・ヴァン・ダー・ビークさんのインスタグラム写真 - (ジェームズ・ヴァン・ダー・ビークInstagram)「Sometimes we fight. We bicker. We go to bed angry, usually over stupid stuff that doesn’t really matter but somehow does in the moment. We don’t post all that on IG because, well... we like being married 😘 But the one thing that seems pretty clear so far is that relationships are not so much about who you are - or who you were when you met - but how you evolve. And, as @vanderkimberly so astutely pointed out to me yesterday, it’s important to afford your partner room to change. To not define them by their past actions, or tendencies, or even current limitations, because that puts them in a box which may not allow space for a better, more fully realized version of themselves to take root. It’s tricky, of course, because as humans we learn by grouping and categorizing - that’s just brain science. But pairing up with another flawed human (myself excluded, obviously- I’m perfect 🤫) means, in no small way, to transcend science. To love, care, and evolve beyond logic. And to allow your partner to do the same. And to always put the toilet seat down - dudes, you don’t want to forget that one. 👍#ItsaJourneyNotaDestination #GoodFriday everybody.」4月20日 1時47分