Catharine Mi-Sookさんのインスタグラム写真 - (Catharine Mi-SookInstagram)「“Sometimes when we disagree with people we have a tendency to speak as though we are the sole authority on whatever the topic may be. We make statements that project the sentiment that: • Our way of existence is the only way to exist. • Our way of doing things is the only way to do them. • Our view of the world is the right view of the world. In reality, what we are presenting is just our preference. When we disagree with someone, what we’re really saying is “That doesn’t work for me,” and that is to be expected because everyone is not going to share our preferences… When we are aggressive in the way that we disagree it may be because: • We’re deeply attached to what we believe. • We feel threatened by the fact that someone doesn’t agree with us. • We think the fact that they don’t agree with us means that they are judging us. • We think we’re being helpful. • We think we need people to think like us to be in community with us. There is a fine line between providing suggestions or being a resource and insisting that someone adopt our way of thinking. The teaching that we’re trying to do is often not required and certainly isn’t always requested. Our truths aren’t universal, and we don’t need to be disrespectful in the way we express them.” -Nedra Glover Tawwab @nedratawwab, from her free newsletter subscription I discovered Nedra’s work four years ago and my family has been a huge fan ever since. She is a licensed therapist, boundaries expert, and a NY Times Best Selling author. Her first book, Set Boundaries Find Peace, was something shared among three generations in my family. Even for the seasoned and straightforward communicator, this book is full of practical, nuanced, and everyday scenarios. Today the Set Boundaries Deck by @nedratawwab is available to order. It is a wonderful tool to use when practicing assertiveness, boundaries and communicating honestly in tricky everyday scenarios. My heartfelt thanks to @tarcherperigee for sending this gifted copy of the #setboundariesdeck by @nedratawwab. And the biggest congrats to you, Nedra! Thank you for sharing your gifts, wisdom and expertise with all of us!」11月15日 1時11分